MESSAGE #452 NEGATIVE NEGATIVE NEGATIVE…
Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Marc Stephens and everyone in Alpha Kappa Psi business fraternity, Montclair chapter.
Recently, I was at a tennis club, observing some teaching professionals. It’s quite interesting to me how there are so many different teaching styles. There is no right or wrong way, but I have noticed a common theme.
Many coaches are negative and they use negative reinforcement.
I was watching a teaching pro work with a pretty advanced player. I noticed something scary. The only thing I heard out of his mouth and the only body language I saw was negative. I must have counted at least 34 negative comments in 30 minutes.
The boy would hit a shot and miss his target and the pro would ask, “Why are you doing that?!” Many coaches even make players run or do conditioning when they perform poorly. I don’t believe in that. I think that’s “old school” coaching.
I then looked at the boy and he just put his head down and looked at the court.
How do you think this boy performed?
How do you think this boy felt about himself?
How much fun do you think this boy had playing tennis?
*Coaches/teachers/parents/managers listen up…
You have to catch people doing something right! When you compliment someone for doing something well, even if it’s something trivial, not only will that person feel good, but they will more likely do that again. What you focus on, you will receive.
You can’t get positive results from negative thoughts.
So start making positive comments and you will start seeing positive results.
Thanks for reading.