Suppose you are down at the beach and you catch a crab. If you put it in a bucket, you need to cover the bucket or the crab will climb out. But if you catch more than one crab, you don’t need to put a cover on the bucket. Why?

Because when one crab tries to climb out of the bucket, the other crabs will grab it and pull it back in. It doesn’t matter how many crabs are in the bucket.

Now what does this have to do with you?

You’re not a crab and other crabs will not bring you down.

But other people might bring you down by things that they say or things that they do. Certain events or situations might bring you down.

But don’t let them.

You choose how you react to different people and different situations. There are some things that you cannot control, but you can control your actions. And your reactions. Here’s my recommended action:

Keep climbing.


It doesn’t matter what you do, or who you are…you’re going to encounter obstacles. On the field, in the classroom, in the boardroom and at home.

Someone once said that life was a series of problem-solving events. We can’t avoid challenges or adversity.

What we can do is change our reactions to them.

I believe that in every challenge, there is a lesson to be learned. You can use adversity to your advantage. Instead of being frustrated, be fascinated. Enjoy the pressure; enjoy the challenge.

That’s what winners do.

Act like a winner today!


Brian Tracy, the expert on human potential, says…


What does this mean?

Eat that frog first thing in the morning and get it out of the way.

What is your frog? Working out? Making calls? Studying? Cleaning?

When you do the most difficult thing first, you not only get it out of the way, but you gain confidence and momentum. Otherwise, the frog will be staring at you all day and zap you of your energy.


Here’s a great bit of advice from the business world…

“When everything gets really complicated and you feel overwhelmed, think about it this way: You gotta do three things. First, get the cow out of the ditch. Second, find out how the cow got into the ditch. Third, make sure you do whatever it takes so the cow doesn’t go into the ditch again.”

Now, you may not have a cow to worry about, but you probably have challenges at work, at school, in sports, in music or in your relationships.

Follow the same steps and you will be pleased with the results.


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I know what the solution is…


Any questions?


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Life is a series of problem-solving events.

We cannot avoid problems – we can only choose how we react to them.

The only question I have for you is this…

Are you going to get irritated, or are you going to get intrigued?

The next time you have a challenge on the court, in school, at work, or in a relationship, are you going to get irritated, or are you going to get intrigued?

If you get irritated, you will not perform at a high level, nor will you have satisfaction.

If you get intrigued, you will be curious to figure out ways to overcome the challenge and probably will. Besides, who doesn’t love a challenge?

Recently I attended to a lecture given by Benjamin Zander, conductor of the Boston Symphony Orchestra.

Zander has a similar way of dealing with problems.

When something doesn’t go well, he throws his arms up in the air and yells, “How fascinating!”

I like that.

Here’s your homework…

When you encounter a problem today, instead of getting irritated by it, get intrigued.

Or you can throw your hands up in the air and yell, “How fascinating!”

People may think you’re strange, so tell them you learned it from Benjamin Zander. I’m joking.

Have a super day everyone…

Thanks for reading.


Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Richard Ridley.

We all have challenges, big and small. We will always have them. If you try to go through life without problems, you’re in for a big surprise. We cannot control our problems – only our reactions. Here’s what the great William Arthur Ward had to say:

“The experienced mountain climber is not intimidated by a mountain – he is inspired by it. The persistent winner is not discouraged by a problem – he is challenged by it. Mountains are created to be conquered; adversities are designed to be defeated; problems are sent to be solved. It is better to master one mountain than a thousand foothills.”

And, speaking of mountains, the great Tal Ben-Shahar, Harvard professor and author of the book, Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment, said that “Happiness is not making it to the peak of the mountain; happiness is the experience of climbing towards the peak.” In other words, focus on the process (your strategy) instead of the product (winning).

When I asked Dr. Ben-Shahar what the keys to success were, in his opinion, he said, Passion (love for what one does), efficacy (belief in one’s self), and hard work (persistence, dedication).

And that’s how you get things done…

Thanks for reading.