It’s all about winning right?


Oftentimes people have the wrong focus—their main goal is to win, i.e., money, trophies, job titles/status.

Would those EXTERNAL “things” really make you happy?

Let’s put it this way, what if you had five million dollars, but on the inside you were a negative and miserable person? What would that make you?

A miserable person with a lot of money.

Being strong, and focusing on the INTERNAL is something that nobody can take away, i.e., money, trophies, job titles/status.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t strive for external riches, but what I am saying is this:

Your INTERNAL riches will make your EXTERNAL riches that much better.

Not the other way around.


Try this exercise:

1. Find three red things in the room you are in.
2. Close your eyes and quickly think of something green in the room.

If you are like most people, it was difficult to think of something green. This is because you were focused on the red items in the room. How does this affect you?

You get what you focus on.

During peak performances, athletes focus on the right things: their target, strategy or game plan.

During poor performances, athletes focus on the wrong things: results, bad calls, bad conditions, spectators or the score.

Focus is important, but make sure you focus on the right things.




Greg Maddux was one of the greatest pitchers in baseball history.

Maddux once left a game with a 2-1 lead, in the seventh inning. The reliever gave up a run to tie the game, which ruined Maddux’ chances of getting the win; frustration for any pitcher. But when Maddux was asked after the game, “How did it go out there tonight?” his reply was, “Fifty out of seventy-three.”

What does this mean?

It means he threw fifty strikes out of seventy-three pitches.

Maddux knows the secret. The key to being a successful is to focus on your execution, not the results. If you stick with your plan and execute properly, your job is done. The beauty of this is, you will get better results. On the other hand, if you focus on things out of your control, like results, the media, or the approval of others, you will decrease your chances of getting the results you want.

What was Maddux’ mantra?

“One at a time.”

How can you argue with someone who won 355 games in his career?

Greg Maddux faced 20,421 batters in his career and only 310 of them saw a 3-0 count (approximately one in every three starts).


I have a feeling someone reading this wants to win more. Here’s how you do it…

Look at the letters of “WIN”…

What’s Important Now.

When you are competing, giving a presentation, or taking a test, focus on what is important. Focus on what will help you win. This is not the time to focus on the results. You can’t control results anyway.

So what’s important now?

Your effort, your attitude, and your reactions.

Give a full effort and trust your game.

That’s it.


Today’s message is especially dedicated to the boys tennis team at Bolsa Grande High School in California.


Many players and teams go into a match thinking, “that team is really good; we have no chance of winning.”

The problem with this mindset is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way, you’re right.”

The best team doesn’t win.

The team that plays best wins.

The Davids beat the Goliaths all the time.

The fastest horse does not always win the race.

If you go all-out, you’re a winner. If you hold back, you’re not.

Any questions?


Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great D.A. Abrams, Executive Director and COO of the USTA Eastern Section.


I may not know you, but I know this about you…

You want to win more…in sports, sales, school, relationships, music, etc.

Here’s how you do it: Don’t focus on winning!

Focus on the things that will help you win more.

1. Write down exactly what you want to accomplish

2. Write down three things you can do each day to get closer to that goal.

3. Do those three things!

4. Repeat.

And if you really want to ensure that you will reach your goals, find an accountability partner, who you will talk to at least once a week to make sure you are on track. (If you know you are going to talk to that person, you will be more likely to get the important things done.)

Remember what WIN stands for…

What’s Important Now


Today’s message is especially dedicated to all the student-athletes trying out for high school spring sports this week.

One of my favorite things to do is study extremely successful performers – elite athletes, CEOs, musicians, presidents, doctors, and students. I have found that one thing they have in common is this…


Last night I was on a tele-seminar on focus with Dr. Rob Gilbert and Mike Schwartz. Physical skills take a while to develop, on the field, in the classroom and at the office, but you can instantly become better by changing your focus.

What are you focusing on?

Basketball players, while taking a foul shot, should focus on a specific part of the rim. However, the ones that miss are focusing on something else, like the crowd or that they may miss the shot.

Many people tend to focus too little and think too much. This is called paralysis by analysis.

We need to focus, but we need to focus on the right things, such as the process versus the product. The process is your effort, strategy and attitude. The product is winning.

When you focus less on winning, you actually win more.

When practicing, studying or reading, do it for 15 minutes, then take a break. Repeat. We can only focus for a certain period of time and by taking regular breaks, we can stay focused for longer periods of time.

Multi-tasking was also a topic of discussion. We can do between five to eight things at one time, but we can only do ONE thing well.

Focus on one thing. The right thing. And go all out.

So good luck to all of you trying out this week and remember what FOCUS stands for…

Follow One Course Until Successful

Thanks for reading.


Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Grant Williams in Cape Town, South Africa.

Do you have a voice inside your head?

Of course you do-we all do.

It is your choice, though, whether you use it in a positive or negative way.

Let me explain…
If you’re in a match situation and you hit two forehands into the net, do you say to yourself…

A) WHY am I hitting everything into the net?!
B) WHY am I so terrible?!
C) HOW can I fix this?
D) Maybe I should try golf…

These are different reactions to the same situation.

Hopefully your answer was C).

Winners ask “HOW?”
Losers ask “WHY?”

The only formula you need to know is this…

E + P = R

Event plus Perception equals Reality.
Write it down on an index card and keep it in your tennis bag, book bag or briefcase. Look at it and think about it often.
A winner says “I can do this better,” and a loser says, “That’s the way I’ve always done it.”

Thanks for reading.