Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Lewis Howes.

Does your day determine your attitude or does your attitude determine your day?

Does how you play determine your attitude or does your attitude determine how you play?
-ED TSENG, author of “Game. Set. Life.” and Pro of the Year USTA 2005

True champions can do their best when they feel their worst. Anyone can perform well when they feel good.

But the great ones are able to perform well even when they don’t have their “A” game.

Will you act how you feel, or will you act like how you WANT to feel?

It’s your choice whether you act like a winner, or you act like a whiner.

If you practiced your sport today for ten hours, would you really wake up tomorrow morning a better athlete?


But do you know how you CAN instantly become better?

By having a winning mindset and by having a winning attitude.

I taught a boy yesterday in a group lesson. He seemed low energy and I asked him if he was tired; he said yes. I told him that it was okay to feel tired, but he didn’t have to ACT tired. He smiled, and said, “Okay.”

He then proceeded to increase his energy and ended up playing great the rest of the lesson.

You don’t have to be a talented, gifted or a world champion to have a winning attitude. Anyone can do it, it’s a choice.

Who has the best attitude that you know?


In 1938, Karoly Takacs of the Hungarian Army, was the top pistol shooter in the world. He was expected to win the gold in the 1940 Olympic Games scheduled for Tokyo.

Those expectations vanished one terrible day just months before the Olympics. While training with his army squad, a hand grenade exploded in Takacs’ right hand, and Takacs’ shooting hand was blown off.

Takacs spent a month in the hospital depressed at both the loss of his hand, and the end to his Olympic dream. At that point most people would have quit. And they would have probably spent the rest of their life feeling sorry for themselves. Most people would have quit but not Takacs. Takacs was a winner. Winners know that they can’t let circumstances keep them down. They understand that life is hard and that they can’t let life beat them down. Winners know in their heart that quitting is not an option.

Takacs did the unthinkable; he picked himself up, dusted himself off, and decided to learn how to shoot with his left hand! His reasoning was simple. He simply asked himself, “Why not?”

Instead of focusing on what he didn’t have – a world class right shooting hand, he decided to focus on what he did have – incredible mental toughness, and a healthy left hand that with time, could be developed to shoot like a champion.

For months Takacs practiced by himself. No one knew what he was doing. Maybe he didn’t want to subject himself to people who most certainly would have discouraged him from his rekindled dream.

In the spring of 1939 he showed up at the Hungarian National Pistol Shooting Championship. Other shooters approached Takacs to give him their condolences and to congratulate him on having the strength to come watch them shoot. They were surprised when he said, “I didn’t come to watch, I came to compete.” They were even more surprised when Takacs won!

The 1940 and 1944 Olympics were cancelled because of World War II. It looked like Takacs’ Olympic Dream would never have a chance to realize itself. But Takacs kept training and in 1944 he qualified for the London Olympics. At the age of 38, Takacs won the Gold Medal and set a new world record in pistol shooting. Four years later, Takacs won the Gold Medal again at the 1952 Helsinki Olympics. Takacs – a man with the mental toughness to bounce back from anything.

Winners in every field have a special trait that helps them become unstoppable. A special characteristic that allows them to survive major setbacks on the road to success. Winners recover QUICKLY. Bouncing back is not enough. Winners bounce back QUICKLY. They take their hit, they experience their setback, they have the wind taken out of their sails, but they immediately recover. Right away they FORCE themselves to look at the bright side of things – ANY bright side, and they say to themselves, “That’s OK. There is always a way. I will find a way.” They dust themselves off, and pick up where they left off.

The reason quick recovery is important is that if you recover quickly, you don’t lose your momentum and your drive. Takacs recovered in only one month. If he had wallowed in his misery, if he had stayed “under the circumstances,” if he had played the martyr, and felt sorry for himself much longer, he would have lost his mental edge – his “eye of the tiger” and he never would have been able to come back.

When a boxer gets knocked down, he has ten seconds to get back up. If he gets up in eleven seconds, he loses the fight. Remember that next time you get knocked down.

Takacs definitely had a right to feel sorry for himself. He had a right to stay depressed and to ask himself “Why me?” for the rest of his life. He had the right to act like a mediocre man.

Takacs could have let his terrible accident cause him to become permanently discouraged, to take up heavy drinking, to quit on life alltogether, and maybe even to end his own life. He could have acted like a loser.

But Takacs made the DECISION to dig deep inside and to find a solution. To pick himself up and to learn to shoot all over again. Winners always search for a solution. Losers always search for an escape.

Next time you get knocked down, DECIDE you will act like a winner. DECIDE to act like Takacs. Get up quickly, take action, and astound the world!

(By Ruben Gonzalez, three-time Olympian)


“Far and away the best prize that life offers is the chance to work hard at work worth doing.”

So here I am entering my most enjoyable blog message.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I enjoy all of my blog messages, but today’s is especially delicious, I mean, enjoyable.

I’m sitting here at DeLorenzo’s Tomato Pies in Robbinsville, NJ. I have wireless internet (stolen from the sushi place next door), an outlet for my laptop and two amazing pies on the way (one 1/2 sweet peppers and onions, 1/2 garlic and one of the owner’s favorite, anchovies, garlic, no cheese…burnt).

Today was my day off, but I gave a mental coaching session and then taught a ladies doubles clinic. I love what I do and don’t mind putting in the hours.

Now I’m blogging during lunch at one of my favorite pizza places on the planet. Again, I don’t consider blogging, work.

Someone recently said that they were jealous of me because I love what I do.

Why can’t you?

I’m not saying to quit your job, but…

-Start doing more of what you love
-Start making a difference
-Think of creative ways you can monetize
-Enjoy the whole process

It’s Friday…are you happy the weekend is here?

I sure am, not because I’m NOT working, but because I AM working…

But for now, I’m off. Time to enjoy my pizza.

Make every day delicious!

Thank you, Sam Amico and DeLorenzo’s Tomato Pies!!

Talk to you tomorrow.


Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Eugene Harper in Hong Kong.

Whether you’re in sports, sales or school, you have to know what radio station your clients, teammates and classmates are listening to.

I’ll save you some time. I know what station they’re listening to…


Make Me Feel Good About Myself Radio

1. Catch people doing something right.

2. Compliment them.

3. Have a genuine interest in them.

4. Repeat.

Most people focus on themselves.

The great ones focus on others.

Be a great one.


Today’s message is especially dedicated to all the great Weichert Realtors in Manalapan, NJ.

I’m giving a talk to one of the top performing Weichert Realtors offices in New Jersey today.

What do I know about selling real estate? A lot.

See, it’s not about real estate, it’s about resiliency. Bounce back ability.

Real estate is challenging these days, so you need to be able to bounce back. It’s a numbers game.

In sports, you don’t win all the time, but if you can bounce back from losses, you will eventually win. Selling real estate is the same way.

Remember Message #918 SW9?

You don’t drown by falling in water.

You drown by staying there.


Thanks for reading.


The best way to predict the future is to create it.

Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Vicky Lelgant in Los Angeles. Happy Birthday to an amazing artist.

What’s your vision?

I had a vision of an artist turning me into an anime character, for my website and promotional items, as well as for a comic book I am writing.

Enter Vicky Lelgant, a former tennis student of mine, who graduated from SCAD (Savannah College of Art and Design) and currently living in Los Angeles. I asked Vicky if she could take on this task. She said yes.

The finished product is seen above in my blog’s welcome message. I am more than pleased with it.

Some people dream and others stay awake and make things happen.

What is your vision? What do you want to accomplish? Who do you want to become? What steps are you taking to get you there?

Remember, the best way to predict the future…is to create it.


Thanks for reading.

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If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting too,
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream–and not make dreams your master,
If you can think–and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ‘em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings–nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much,
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And–which is more–you’ll be a Man, my son!

–Rudyard Kipling

(Thanks to the great Jake Putnam in Boise, Idaho for sharing)


Mike Sheppard, Jr talks about pressure at the Yogi Berra Museum and Learning Center

Today I was invited to attended a workshop for baseball coaches at the Yogi Berra Museum and Learning Center entitled, “How Top Baseball Coaches Build Successful Programs.

Why would I go listen to people talk about baseball? Because coaching is coaching. And the great coaches know that it’s not about sports, it’s about life.

The panelists were Fred Hill, Sr (Rutgers University), Mike Sheppard, Jr (Seton Hall Prep), and Ted Jarmusz (Monmouth Regional HS). The moderator was award-winning coach, John McCarthy, co-founder of the Yogi Berra Museum’s Coaching Institute.

Motivating and conditioning your athletes, Focusing on the big picture, Getting the most out of practice sessions, and Mentoring assistants were some of the topics. It’s amazing to me how all three legendary coaches talked very little about winning. They talked about effort and attitude. “You’re not going to succeed if you don’t put the time in,” said Coach Hill.

“Work ethic is the key…and passion,” added Sheppard, Jr.

Coach Jarmusz said, “Our philosophy is Pride and Hustle…that’s it. You don’t have to be a great athlete or talented to do those things.”

Hill believes that there should not be very many rules.

“My only rules are: 1) Be on time 2) Give 100% every day”

It’s amazing how I could be so motivated and learn so much from baseball coaches. The thing that I like most about myself is that I love learning; I love seeing how everything relates to everything else…sports, school, business, art.

We should play sports because we love to play.

We should coach because we love to coach. It’s not about the results, the trophy or the money.

Arthur Ashe said, “Success is a journey.”

Give it your all, enjoy the process and make a difference.

Moderator, John McCarthy put it best, with a quote by the great Lou Holtz…

“Do you want to be successful or do you want to be significant?”

MESSAGE #930 Cheaters Never Prosper…

Former baseball superstar, Mark Grace once said, “If you’re not cheating, you’re not trying.”

Really, Mark?

Character goes a long way in my book. I just lost all respect for Grace. Well, not all, there’s always the chance that he was misquoted.

But here’s the point – I would rather my players give it their all without cheating and lose, than cheat and win. If they make it, they make it. If not, they will go on to be successful in business, art, music or cooking.

Cheaters cheat because they want to win more than anything else.

What are you playing for, the trophy?

Here, I’ll give you one. Will you be happy? I doubt it.

Winners never cheat and cheaters never win.

Somewhere along the line, as a society, we started focusing on the result; focusing on ourselves.

Well, we headed down the wrong path.

The key is staying in the present moment – enjoying the process. Focusing on helping others and making a difference.

People say nice guys finish last, but I disagree.

Nice guys are winners before the competition begins.