Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Debra Wachspress.

This morning I ran into Debra Wachspress, Director of Community Engagement at the Boys and Girls Club of Trenton at the Princeton Regional Chamber of Commerce breakfast meeting. I had never met her in person, but we had exchanged emails as I prepared to speak at the Boys and Girls Club last month. At the end of the Princeton Chamber meeting, Debra came up to me and said, “I have to tell you something. Prior to your speaking at The Boys and Girls Club, I was on your website and watched some of your videos. Now, because of you, I exercise every night!”

Wow, that motivated ME! I didn’t even know she has been on my website!

Now, because Debra has been working out consistently for the past three weeks, it is actually harder for her NOT to exercise than it is for TO exercise.

It is now a habit.

Here’s another way to look at it…

It’s better to do a little, A LOT than it is to do A LOT, a little.

If you know the goal you want to attain, make it important enough and you will stick with it.

Thank you for the motivation, Debra!


“Tough times don’t last, but tough people do.”

I miss the Twin Towers.

There isn’t a time when I look at the New York City skyline and don’t think about the World Trade Center.

Yesterday, I attended a lecture on success by Bill Boggs, four-time Emmy Award-winning talk show host at the Princeton Regional Chamber of Commerce Business Luncheon. Boggs has interviewed some of the most successful people of the last century. He shared some of their tips on success.

It was interesting to hear that Sinatra said, “Sometimes you have to scrape bottom in life to understand how really wonderful life can be.”

And that Donald Trump said you cannot achieve great things in life without developing mental toughness.

Boggs said Mario Cuomo talked about the value of hard work.

Bill also interviewed Philippe Petit, the Frenchman who walked on a wire across the Twin Towers. Boggs spoke to him the day after he accomplished “The Artistic Crime of the Century” (Time Magazine). Petit said that it didn’t matter if that wire was two feet off the ground or two hundred feet; he was attached to that wire.

The documentary, “Man on Wire” was about Philippe Petit’s amazing feat on August 7, 1974, including his planning and philosophy on “living life on a tightrope.”

It was a sign that Boggs mentioned this movie that I had been meaning to see. So last night I rented the documentary and realized I would be watching it on the eve of 9/11. I got chills.

I had mixed emotions watching shots of the Twin Towers. There was sadness, appreciation of beauty and sheer awe.

This was an amazing film on many levels. And there were so many life lessons throughout.

I loved how Petit practiced in France with friends bouncing on the wire, simulating the potential wind and swaying of the towers. (Practicing Perfect)

“If you want something, nothing is impossible.”

Philippe Petit planned the 1,340 foot-high walk for six years and said that he never once thought about the walk. He was focusing on the planning of it. (Process versus Product)

“Improvisation and intuition should be taught in school. That brings intense joy and expression.” (Mindfulness)

“To me it’s really so simple that life should be lived on the edge of life. You have to exercise rebellion. To refuse to taper yourself to rules. To refuse your own success. To refuse to repeat yourself. To see every day, every year, every idea, as a true challenge. And then you are going to live your life on a tightrope.”

And finally…

“If you are passionate, you are going to do what you love to do all day long and you are going to be the best at it.”

Today, take a moment to remember 9/11. It’s okay to be sad, but remember what Joe Torre said, “Tough times don’t last, but tough people do.”

Torre’s former player, Derek Jeter may make history in New York tonight, on the anniversary of 9/11, as he tries to surpass the great Lou Gehrig, and become the Yankees all-time hit leader with 2, 722 hits in the pinstripes.

Have a great day, everyone.

Thanks for reading.


“The journey is the Thing.”

I wish I could start every day like I did today.

At 7:15AM I pulled into the parking lot of the Nassau Club for a breakfast meeting for the Princeton Regional Chamber of Commerce. Today’s speaker was Reverend Peter Stimpson, director of Trinity Counseling Service, and author of “Map to Happiness.”

I love listening to speakers. And I love learning about happiness. And I love networking. I did it all this morning.

Reverend Stimpson used the quote above by Homer in his talk. He spoke about how it’s not the product (money, status, power) but instead, it’s all about the process (your journey, your attitude and your relationships).

The Reverend said that the key is to learn to love and be loved, in every interaction we have. This is so true in relationships, work, school and sports. He talked about how someone he knew was miserable at the end of his career because he only accumulated five million dollars versus his business partner who made fifty million. Guess what? If you have five million dollars and you’re miserable, you’re just a miserable rich person. It’s about the journey.

Stimpson said not to worry about external opinion, but to focus on internal worth.

The three main points in his talk were:
1. Everyone is insecure – it’s okay to make mistakes
2. We give power to other people – why? Power comes from within
3. Success is who you become not what you attain

Stimpson also talked about depression and how it occurs when there is a big gap between our ego and ego ideal. If we feel we need to or have to or should accomplish this goal or that goal and we don’t achieve it, depression sets in. The cure? Love yourself for who you are, as you are. Separate actions and results from worth.

The Reverend ended by saying “Remember, everyone is insecure. It’s okay if you are too. Just be patient with your growth.”

This applies to all areas of life.

Thanks for reading.

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Today’s message is especially dedicated to all the great attendees and volunteers yesterday at the Princeton Regional Chamber of Commerce Annual Golf and Tennis Outing at Greenacres Country Club and last night at The Warren Racquet Club for the USTA Eastern Junior Team Tennis Workshop.

So I did it.

Today was Day 21 of my 21 day workout/meditation/organization program. The experts say that if you do something for 21 straight days, it becomes a habit. I have to admit, I didn’t always feel like doing it, but I did it anyway. And I always felt great afterwards.

You need willpower. And if you don’t have willpower, that’s okay – do it anyway! By doing what I committed to for 21 straight days, I exercised my willpower muscles. Now I can’t picture myself NOT doing it every morning. That’s powerful. And it went by very quickly.

I feel like a new person.

I developed new habits.

Anthony Robbins said, “Our habits form our lives.” It’s true.

You can do it. But you have to start. The best time is today.

Remember the five words that make most people fail…

“I don’t feel like it.”

Thanks for reading.