Message # 89 Dedication

Even on my birthday, you get a blog…

This message is especially dedicated to my parents, Vincent and Mary Tseng. If it weren’t for you, I wouldn’t be here. As much as I want to help others and make a difference in the world, the main reason why I do what I do is to make you proud. Thank you for everything. I love you!

dedication: noun. self-sacrificing devotion. I, Ed Tseng am dedicated to writing in this blog every day, in hopes that I can help inspire at least one person each day. It doesn’t matter if it’s my birthday, Thanksgiving, New Year’s, or Groundhog Day.

I love getting emails from you…here’s one I got this morning.

“As I read Socrates, the person with the greatest knowledge and wisdom I thought about you…

Your wisdom is a seed, that you have planted, now watch it grow!!!

A good man cannot be harmed either in life or in death.

I know what I do not know.

Wealth does not bring about excellence, but excellence brings about wealth and all other public
and private blessings for men.

It is best and easiest not to discredit others but to prepare oneself to be as good as possible.
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It is not difficult to avoid death, it is much more difficult to avoid wickedness, for it runs faster
than death.”

‘It is the greatest good for a man to discuss virtue every day, for the unexamined life is not
worth living.'”

I can safely say, no one has ever said that they were reading about Socrates and thought of me.

Much gratitude, Mr. Lessa.

Thanks for reading.

Homework: Dedicate yourself to everything you do and don’t let anyone or anything get in your way.

Message # 88 All The Skills You Need…

This message is dedicated to all the people out there who think they “can’t do it.”

The easy part is developing the skills you need. The easy part is honing your skills and practicing.

The hard part is believing that you can attain peak performance. It doesn’t matter if you are a student, employee, owner, musician, athlete or chef, in order to become successful and get the most joy out of what you do, you have to first BELIEVE that you can do it. Believe that it is possible. Don’t be like everyone else and get confident or energized AFTER you reach success. Set your goals high and keep heading in that direction. Most people think about their past failures or “what if I can’t do it?”

When I started my company, Tennis Solutions, I was scared to death. I was going from a steady paycheck to potentially no paycheck. Many people feel that way. They don’t like to get out of their comfort zones. “It’s the start that stops most people.” But I knew I had the skills, so I decided to just focus on the positives and instead of thinking “what if I can’t?” I thought, “how can I?” And now, in the past eight months, I have done things that some people don’t do in their entire lives! It’s only going to get better. I am my own biggest fan. You need to be your biggest fan.

The truly successful people know that you need the confidence to perform well. Look at all those great athletes, they think that nobody is better than them. The confidence doesn’t have to be on the outside, but you at least need to feel it on the inside. You get what you focus on – stay positive no matter what. Believe in yourself, even when nobody else does.

Watch my video below with the great, Dr. Rob Gilbert.

Homework: Work on getting the belief first, then worry about the skills.

Message # 87 College Tips…

This message is especially dedicated to my Robbinsville High School tennis seniors, Jen Aquaro, Stephanie Schwartz, Rida Alvi and Amy Scheiner.

To get you ready for next year, here are some tips on college success, compliments of Dr. Rob Gilbert.

Tip # 2

The secret to motivating yourself: When you have a big enough “why,” you’ll always discover the “how.”

Tip # 3

Your goals are meaningless without a purpose. Define your purpose and then write it down for future reference.

Tip # 4

If your mission is to change the world, you’ll never be bored.

Tip # 6

It’s not good enough to do your best. In order to really succeed, you have to do whatever it takes.

Tip # 9

Your parents are counting on you. Make them proud.

Tip # 12

Winners never quit, and quitters never win.

Tip # 15

Anyone can handle success. The real winners learn how to handle failure.

Tip # 20

There are three types of students:
-Those who are in the parade
-Those who are watching the parade
-Those who are wondering, “What parade?”

Be in the parade!

Tip # 22

Act as if you are the world’s greatest student:
-Sit in the middle of the front row
-Sit up straight
-Ask questions
-Answer questions
-Look interested
-Laugh at the professor’s jokes!

Tip # 28

You’ll have no competition in the classroom if you are competing for knowledge.

Tip # 97

For your most difficult classes, read related blogs and Google articles-anything to gain a greater understanding of the subject.

Tip # 381

When you’re at the library feeling down and discouraged, go to the encyclopedia and read the biographies of Helen Keller and Abraham Lincoln.

Best of luck, senior Lady Tennis Ravens!

For more tips, buy Dr. Gilbert’s book, “How to Have Fun Without Failing Out. 430 Tips From a College Professor.”

Message # 86 Motivation Goes Both Ways

Below is from an email I received today.

Hey Ed, How are you? Long time no talk. I hope all is going well with Tennis Solutions and all. I have finally finished polishing my college essay. It is attached and I hope you enjoy it. After all, it is about you.

Take care,

Chris

The Perks of Ambition

Teaching at The Tseng Summer Tennis Camp this past summer changed my entire life. As my senior year in high school drew closer, I began to visualize the long road ahead of me. I questioned my ability to succeed in college and later in life because I worried my frequent lack of focus and determination would withhold me from success. As his long time tennis student, Ed asked me to teach at his newly established summer camp. I agreed at once, thinking that it would grant me a good opportunity to make some extra cash. I never would have known that I would receive much more than just money. Before the start of my job, I participated in many social gatherings such as graduation parties, movies with friends, sports, and subsequently set my school work aside for the last few days of summer. Little did I know my life was about to make a dramatic change from teaching tennis at Ed’s camp.

Ed Tseng, an inspirational speaker and professional tennis player, taught me a lifelong lesson that I will never forget. Ed is not only a role model for his students, but also a motivator for his peers. Ever since he started teaching some thirteen years ago, he never doubted the potential of any one of his students. He wanted to make an impact with his work and decided to form his own company. Ed’s leap from an instructor to an entrepreneur impressed me tremendously, so I asked him about it. His reply was, “Chris, never doubt your abilities. If you aim for the moon and miss, at least you’ll become one of the stars.” The more I thought about his words, the more I began to realize the world of opportunities that await me. I wanted to be just like Ed. He advised me to “take risks, and always remain optimistic even when things don’t go the way you want them to.” Immediately, I became encouraged to take on all challenges.

This past summer I learned that tennis affects many aspects of my life. I would drive to work every morning at nine, and he would always be on the courts giving private lessons as early as seven. I asked him how he was able to generate so much energy. With a smile, he replied, “Motivation, my friend.” I pondered his words and came to the conclusion that enthusiasm drives people to achieve their goals. Every morning, he gave the campers a speech about life. One day he remarked, “Negative thoughts equate to negative actions. Positive thoughts equate to positive actions.” Because of his guidance, I learned to remain hopeful on and off the court.
Ed is a huge inspiration to me. This past summer, I reached an epiphany. No longer will I let time pass me by, for now I know what I want to accomplish for the rest of my life. I eradicated procrastination from my vocabulary and replaced it with determination. I gained the will power to accomplish my goals with vitality, including my school work. Mother Teresa once said, “We can’t always do great things; just little things with great love.” I interpret this as we ought to give our best effort even for the most trivial tasks.

My goals are set and I look forward to working on them every day until I finally reach the stars, if not the moon. No boundaries will keep me from what I commit to do. I have gained a completely new perspective on the world and will never look at obstacles the same way. Nowadays, I look forward to achieving the most with my classes and assignments. Ed epitomizes success and I want to emulate him. From working with Ed this summer, I learned a truly valuable lesson about life: Ambition drives people to success.

Wow, that was really powerful. I have to admit, that make me pretty emotional. I knew that I helped people, but changing people’s lives? That means a lot to me.

Was my goal to change Chris’ life? No, but when you’re motivated, you get others motivated. My goal was to motivate Chris, but as a by-product, it changed his life. The best way to motivate yourself is to motivate others, it’s a cycle. By reading this essay, I am have even more energy now to make a difference in more people’s lives and leave a legacy.

Thanks for the inspiration, Chris. I know you will be a great success.

Homework: Motivate someone today and watch how it motivates you.

Message # 85 The Two Most Important Questions…

Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Steven Butler.

The two most important questions you can ask yourself on any given day or subject or performance are the following:

On a scale of 1 to 10, I feel my ___________(tennis game, life, academics, business, finance, relationships, health/nutrition, hobbies, energy level, confidence, spirituality, etc.) is a _____.

In order to get to a 10, I need to _________________________________.

The beauty of these two questions, is that you are constantly analyzing at what level you are performing, and, more importantly, you are figuring out your weaknesses so you can improve. That is an instant game-plan.

To make this even more effective, write these answers down, and keep them with you. Read them at least once a day, and use them in all aspects of your life. Remember, if you’re going to play the game, play all out.

Homework: Get some index cards and start asking yourself these questions.

Message # 84 Are You a Giver, or a Taker?

Message # 81 was dedicated to my youngest Zen master, Sela Horowitz (1 year 2 months old). Today’s message is especially dedicated to my grandmother, the amazing Buddhist, Fung Shee Pan (101 years old).

As a Buddhist, I feel that we are all the same and we need to help each other. So, my question to you, is, are you a giver or are you a taker?

We live in a society of me, me, me, when it should actually be we, we, we. We look for money, fame, big homes, nice cars, and flat screen TVs. When we are looking to these materialistic things to fulfill our happiness, we are often only temporarily gratified. True happiness comes from helping others.

There have been studies that show that when a teenager volunteers, they reap the health benefits for up to 60 years. They are healthier, have less stress, and are truly, happier.

To every one’s defense, life moves pretty fast, and it’s easy to focus on ourselves. But try helping others, whether it’s a compliment or going to a third world country and volunteering. It doesn’t matter if it’s major or minor, you won’t regret it. Think of this as doing your part to help change the world.

So take less and give more. It’s not what you intend to get. It’s all about what you intend to give.

“What you give, you keep. What you fail to give, you lose forever.”

Homework: Give a little today.

Message # 83 A Lesson from Vince Lombardi

Vince Lombardi is considered the world’s greatest coach. The coach for the Green Bay Packers from 1959-1967 took a team that was one of the worst and made them one of the best.

“Act, don’t react.”

Vince Lombardi said that “experience is a wonderful teacher.” The key is learning from your experience, otherwise you may make the same mistake again. And again. But totally relying on the past can hurt you. What happened in the past may not happen in the present. The other team might be making adjustments, as well. “The championship team that dwelled on last year’s championship was unlikely to repeat that achievement.”

Lombardi has three techniques to help you act, rather than react…

1. Study the past, live in the present: Find yesterday’s lessons, but assume that today is new.
2. Continue learning: the best way to be ready for the challenges of tomorrow is to keep learning today. Relying on the old skills that have worked in the past will backfire, as those skills become obsolete.
3. Seize the moment: Seize the initiative by seeing things for what they are…and act without hesitation on what you see.

Homework: Start acting the way you want to be instead of reacting to what life brings you.

Message # 82 A Great Psychological Truth

Here’s a poem from Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success…

If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don’t;
If you like to win, but you think you can’t, it is almost certain you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’ve lost,
For out of the world we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will –
It’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are –
You’ve got to think high to rise.
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man;
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.

Thanks for reading.

Homework: Believe in yourself today!

Message # 81 Clenched Fists

This message is dedicated to my youngest Zen master, the great Sela Horowitz ( 1 year, 2 months old, tomorrow).

“You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist.” Many of us walk around tight or nervous or angry. Some of us are too quick to judge others or focus on the negative qualities.

In order to attain true happiness and connection with others, and ourselves is to unclench our fists. Sympathize and empathize. There may be people we don’t like, but if we wait long enough, good qualities will eventually come out. If you look at things from other’s perspectives, you will understand. Even if people don’t treat you well, you are just as bad as them if you try to get revenge or treat them the same.

If you are playing a tennis match and your opponent is making terrible line calls. Do you let that bother you? It happens all the time. You can’t control what people do, you can only control what YOU do. Perhaps their coach told them to call it out when in doubt, so it’s not the player’s fault. It’s true, I’ve known coaches that teach that. But those coaches are only focused on winning. I don’t worry about that because people get what they deserve. Karma.

Perhaps they have terrible vision and can’t make good line calls. You don’t know, so don’t jump to conclusions.

If they are giving you an attitude, don’t worry about it. Maybe they had a bad day or a death in the family or just broke up with their boyfriend/girlfriend.

Another way we clench our fists is when we are nervous. Sometimes when we don’t even realize it. I see people play tennis for an hour and a half and they have this “death grip” the whole time. Watch the pros and see how after each point, they put their racquet in their non-dominant hand. That way you relax and give your arm a break.

People come from all walks of life and all cultures and everyone has been through different situations. Spend some time getting to know others before you judge them. It will make things much easier.

The Native Americans say, “To know a person, you have to walk a mile in their moccasins.”

Homework: Find someone you dislike and unclench your fists.