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MESSAGE #1064 THAT LITTLE VOICE INSIDE YOUR HEAD

Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Shari Koretsky.

Tennis players need to expand on their positive thoughts and cut down on their negative thoughts.

I have worked with some of the top juniors in the country and one thing I have noticed is that they all have good strokes. When they are playing well, they look like future champions. But when things start going wrong, most of these elite athletes get negative, VERY negative. They yell at themselves, smash their racquets against the ground and have terrible body language.

They have this voice inside their head. We all do. And if you’re asking yourself, “Do I have a voice inside my head?”…that’s the voice I’m talking about.

The key is to make that voice positive. Pump yourself up or make adjustments if you’re not getting the results you want.

Focus on what you want to happen. Focus on being your own coach. And focus on attitude and effort.

I am currently working with several high-level athletes on their mental toughness and they are all improving. A few of them have even gotten compliments from other parents, coaches and umpires on their improved attitudes.

For the most part, we create our lives. We choose how we react to certain situations.

But the question is, will we choose to be positive or negative?

Leave your comments below…

MESSAGE #1061 HOW TO FAIL LESS…

I have a feeling that someone reading this has been disappointed before – unhappy with results in sports, sales or school.

Perhaps you tried to do something but failed, like ask someone out on a date.

Here’s how you can get different results…

Either change your perception of the situation or change your approach.

Let me explain.

Say you are playing tennis and you keep hitting the ball into the net. You may start to think that you stink and are not a good tennis player.

Changing your perception would be: even though you are hitting many balls into the net, you are still a good player, still in control and will make adjustments.

You can also change your approach. This would be aiming higher over the net next time.

When you change your perception and/or change your approach, you get different results.

That’s the bottom-line.

MESSAGE #1059 A SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY

Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Eric Tecce.

Goethe once said, “Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is; treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.”

Think about how you treat yourself.

Think about how you treat others.

Many years ago, at a school in England, there was a computer glitch. It classified a class of gifted students as below average and it classified a class of below average students as gifted.

Five months later, the error was found.

But the most amazing discovery was after they tested the students.

The gifted students (who were classified as below average) had significantly lower IQ scores.

The below average students (who were classified as gifted) had significantly higher IQ scores.

Interesting.

What does this mean?

As an athlete, coach, teacher or parent, we should always assume that greatness is attainable.

Because it is.

Remember Henry Ford…

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way, you’re right.”

MESSAGE #1058 WATCH YOUR LANGUAGE!

Today’s message is especially dedicated to the great Rich Benvin in Denver, CO.

Success is often determined by our verbage.

Have you ever used any of the following?

“I can’t do it.”

“I have to win this match.”

“If only I had more more money.”

These are limiting beliefs.

Try the following, instead…

“I can’t do it yet.”

“I want to win this match.”

“I am grateful for the money I have and I am confident that more is on the way.”

That’s a different mindset – a winning mindset. And anyone can have one.

MESSAGE #1057 PAIN MANAGEMENT

I recently received an email from a psychology student at UCLA asking, what is your favorite “pain management” technique that you would share with a marathon runner to help get through “the wall”?

As a runner, pain is part of the process and as long as you are not risking injury, you have to push through it.

Too often, our mind gives up before our body.

In yoga, when you feel you cannot hold a pose any longer, the secret is to shift your focus to another body part, your breathing or anything besides the fact that you cannot hold it any longer. Once you fight through that pain, it becomes easier. Running (and life) is the same way.

If you don’t feel like working out anymore, or if you don’t feel like making more sales calls, or you don’t feel like studying anymore…FIGHT THROUGH IT.

And remember…

Don’t Quit. Can’t Fail.

MESSAGE #1051 WHAT YOU CAN LEARN FROM A KID

Last night was the major league debut of baseball phenom, Stephen Strasburg, age 21.

He is a right-handed pitcher for the Washington Nationals, who selected him with the first pick in the 2009 Major League Baseball Draft. Strasburg signed for a record $15.1 million contract on August 17, 2009. ESPN called him the “most-hyped pick in draft history” and Sports Illustrated called him the “most hyped and closely watched pitching prospect in the history of baseball.”

Now, there are many top prospects, but many of them never make it.

I think, if Strasburg stays healthy, he will make it.

Why? Because he works hard. And he’s humble. He goes all-out in every start.

So what did Strasburg do last night in his major league debut?

He struck out 14 Pittsburgh Pirates (a Nationals single-game record) over seven innings in a 5-2 victory. Oh, and his last pitch was faster than his first – 99 miles per hour.

“They didn’t really talk to me about a game plan or how to attack certain hitters,” the 21-year-old Strasburg said. “They just told me to go out there and enjoy it.”

I will be certain to follow this young man’s career over the next few years and I have a good feeling about it.

In his post-game interview he said the 5 most powerful words…

“I definitely think anything’s possible.”

MESSAGE #1050 ONE EASY MENTAL TOUGHNESS TIP

Here’s a an easy mental toughness tip that you can instantly start to use.

1. Stand or sit up straight.
2. Stick your chest out.
3. Bring your shoulders back.
4. Lift your chin up.

Now feel negative.

You can’t do it, can you?

I can tell you to try to feel confident, happy and positive, but you may not be able to.

But I can say smile, or act like the most confident person in the whole world and you can. The beauty of this is that even if you have to fake it at first, soon you will feel it.

Congratulations to Rafael Nadal and Francesca Schiavone and a special thank you to the great Angie Holmberg who snapped some great shots of Game. Set. Life. on her recent trip to London and the French Open. See below.



MESSAGE #1046 NEXT STOP: KEY LARGO

Well, I leave for the airport in a few minutes to hop a flight to Ft. Lauderdale, Florida.

Tomorrow morning I will be speaking at the USPTA Florida Convention to tennis coaches, directors, club owners and administrators at the Ocean Reef Club in Key Largo.

I will be nervous.

Being nervous is good – it means you are about to do something important. Being nervous is much better than not caring.

Do you get nervous before a big match? A presentation at work? Asking someone out on a date?

Pete Sampras used to get nervous all the time. In fact, he used to get so nervous before finals that he would throw up in the locker room.

But why was Sampras able to perform the way he did?

Because he didn’t act how he felt.

So tomorrow morning at about 9:30am I will be getting nervous.

But at 10am, I am going to ACT like I’m going to rock the house.

Next message from sunny (hopefully) Florida.

MESSAGE #1045 THE MOST AMAZING PLAY I HAVE EVER SEEN IN SPORTS

I have seen some amazing things in sports. I was at David Cone’s Perfect Game, Joe DiMaggio Day at Yankee Stadium, several World Series games, the US Open, Australian Open and countless other events on television. But yesterday I saw the MOST amazing thing.

Armando Galarraga threw a perfect game for the Detroit Tigers…but umpire Jim Joyce took it away from him.

On what should have been the last play of the game, a ground ball was hit to first baseman, Miguel Cabrera, who threw it to Galarraga covering first. That should have been the final out. Game over. History made. But the runner was called safe.

To be honest, at normal speed, I could not tell if the runner was out or if he was safe. But on replay he was clearly out and Galarraga clearly should have had a perfect game. Joyce blew the call.

After the game, Joyce asked to see the replay and saw that he was wrong. He then went to find Galarraga and apologized.

That’s a class act.

I respect Jim Joyce for that.

But the best play in the whole game was Galarraga. After the blown save, Armando was surprised, but just laughed and then got the final out.

Galarraga could have given Joyce a piece of his mind and told him where to go, but he didn’t.

After the game, Galarraga said, “Nobody’s perfect, everybody’s human.”

That’s mental toughness at it’s best.

Here’s an excerpt from Tom Verducci’s article in SI.com:

There is no polite way to say this: Joyce blew the call. Galarraga caught the ball in plenty of time, even if it wedged precariously in the webbing of his glove, and scraped the base, even if inelegantly, with his foot. Immortal fame was his.

Jim Joyce took it away. He called Donald safe. No sign that Galarraga juggled the ball. No sign that he missed the base. Just safe. Pure and simple safe.

Umpires miss calls. It happens. Nobody feels worse when an umpire misses a call than the umpire himself. They are proud men who strive for a 100 percent success rate and are bound to be disappointed. Upon seeing a replay, Joyce was crushed.

“I just cost that kid a perfect game,” the umpired admitted afterward. “I thought he beat the throw. I was convinced he beat the throw, until I saw the replay.”

It was a classy move by Joyce, who also apologized to Galarraga personally. The pitcher told a Venezuelan reporter that Joyce was crying when he offered him his apology.

“He really feel bad. He probably feel more bad than me,” Galarraga told Fox Sports Detroit. “Nobody’s perfect, everybody’s human. I understand. I give a lot of credit to the guy saying, ‘Hey, I need to talk to you because I really say I’m sorry.’ That don’t happen. You don’t see an umpire after the game say ‘I’m sorry.'”

Yes, Galarraga’s perfecto would have been impressive, but to be honest with you, his reaction to the missed call was the most impressive thing I have ever seen in sports.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9t8Tzme56os

MESSAGE #1043 THIS IS A TEST

Five birds are sitting on a wire.

Three of them decide to fly off.

How many birds are left?

Most say two.

The answer: five.

Just because the three birds decided to fly off, doesn’t mean they did.

What are you putting off doing today?

Remember…Motivation is not a feeling, it’s an ACTION.